anyone else be the
Master of your Destiny?
It's all about you.
It's all about choices.
talk a lot about the kind of life they'd like
to have. Other people do something to make it
happen. Which kind are you?
Deciding to Take a Chance on Yourself
ten years ago, a friend of mine named Melissa
made a decision that changed her life. Her school
counselor offered her the chance to become an
exchange student in Europe. She would be living
in Germany, France, and Denmark, learning all
about each country's customs, meeting new people,
and picking up some of each language.
No one in Melissa's family had ever traveled far
out of the state they lived in. Her parents were
skeptical, and told her that she should forget
it-they didn't have any extra money to help her
with such foolishness. In fact, no one in Melissa's
working-class neighborhood had ever considered
going to Europe. They just hoped they'd have enough
money to pay the rent each month and buy groceries
Melissa knew it would be easier to stay home,
to keep working part-time and going to school
part-time. "After all," she thought,
"who do I think I am? I really don't know
what to expect. I don't know any foreign languages.
I'd probably just make a fool of myself."
If Melissa went to Europe for a year, she wouldn't
be able to work, and she'd be spending the money
she'd worked so hard to save. It would be her
first time ever away from her family and friends,
too. What if she got homesick? And the thing that
scared her most was that when she came back from
her adventure, she'd be broke. She'd have to live
at home and rely on her parents until she could
get a job and save enough to move out.
Still, she couldn't
quite forget the idea. Why shouldn't it
be her? After going endlessly back and forth,
she finally decided to take the risk. She could
always come back early if she hated it. She called
her school counselor, who was delighted when Melissa
said "Sign me up!"
The counselor was about the only one who seemed
happy. Melissa's family offered no support, emotionally
or financially, and her friends just laughed when
she said she was going to Europe. They finally
realized she was serious when she closed out her
savings account and asked the counselor to drive
her to the airport. "We'll see you in a couple
of weeks," her dad laughed as she walked
to the car.
The trip began poorly. The airline bumped Melissa's
entire group, and told them they'd have to wait
until the next day to leave. Although she had
never flown before, Melissa decided if she didn't
leave that very day, she'd chicken out completely.
She went from one ticket counter to another until
she found a connection, spending 10 hours in the
airport before leaving on her first-ever flight.
It took so long and she was so nervous that she
began to wonder if she should have listened to
her parents and her friends after all. When she
arrived in Germany the next afternoon, she was
exhausted. She guessed that the weird sleep-deprived
feeling she was experiencing was what people called
jet lag. Oddly, it pleased her somehow to know
first-hand what it was. No one back home knew
what jet lag felt like! She handed the address
of her new apartment to the taxi driver, and paid
him in Euros when he dropped her off. Then she
slept for a long, long time.
The next day, Melissa
began exploring her new neighborhood. She wasn't
nervous at all. She found her way to the nearest
travel agency and bought a train pass. Nearly
everyone spoke English and seemed helpful, and
the trains made it easy to get around.
The next week,
she ventured further-to Switzerland. She went
alone because the other students in her group
were apprehensive about traveling outside the
"base" country. Melissa wasn't exactly
radiating confidence herself, but she wanted to
see as much as she could during her time in Europe,
and the only way to do that was to summon up her
courage and go. She loved learning what was beyond
the sheltered world she had left behind. She found
that all she really needed was common sense and
a map. From then on, when Friday came, Melissa
was packing her bag for another destination. She
saw the ruins at Rome, the Eiffel Tower, and even
the great pyramids in Egypt. Sometimes she felt
like she must be dreaming-that she'd wake up from
this new feeling of independence, freedom, accomplishment
and success. But she was wide awake, and enjoying
Melissa's year of travel was a year of revelation
for her. As she studied different cultures and
met so many new people, she realized she had always
had an adventurous spirit and a thirst for knowledge.
And if Melissa had decided to stay in the US,
she would never have met her future husband.
She helped him run his restaurant in Berlin-a
new enterprise they enthusiastically shared, and
with great success. They stayed in Germany for
another year before they returned to the States.
As it turned out, Melissa was far from being broke!
So what's the lesson
here? People who don't take risks don't go far.
People who let others make their decisions for
them are rarely happy. And fear is what
keeps 99% of people from leading fulfilled, successful
lives. You don't have to let that happen
to you. Figure out what you want, and then go
What You Need
You should be steering
your own ship. While there will always be some
factors that are out of your hands, it makes little
sense to worry about what you can't change. Instead,
worry about what you can
control - you and your actions
and your thinking.
Points To Remember:
receptive to all possibilities. Most new ideas
sounded crazy the first time they were introduced.
of failure can be very powerful. It can cause
you to stay in a rut, to procrastinate, and to
miss out on opportunities to change your life.
If you are dominated by fear, learn to be brave.
that risk-taking is a necessary part of success.
Learning to negotiate risks leads to more self-confidence
and more triumphs along the road to the life you
would like to lead.
be on the lookout for new opportunities.
Define success for yourself. Most people believe
it's about finding inner peace, satisfaction and
emotional balance, as well as financial stability.
You can't achieve those unless you start thinking
out of the box. You have to be willing to take
some risks. You must be willing to step out of
your "comfort zone." This applies to
business as well as to your personal life.
Of The Pillars Of Success:
your work, and work your plan!
every effort to be the best you can be at what
you do. Don't compare yourself to others. Set
your own goals.
you make a commitment, stick to it!
that disappointments are part of life. Instead
of allowing setbacks to keep you from moving ahead,
overcome them and forge ahead. This will make
that every experience, whether good or bad, can
be a learning experience. It's all in what you
take from it.
each day as if it were your last; have no regrets.
Some Final Words
have you decided yet if you're a talker
or a doer? Do you wait for
things to happen to you at the whim of others,
or do you make them happen? Are
you just thinking about how great your future
could be if only...? There is no better
time than right now to stop just thinking
about making a change that will secure your future
success and time. Right now is the time to do
something about it. Starting a home based
business is one of the easiest first steps you
can take to begin working on your financial independence.
You may have heard people derisively say, "Oh,
she's only looking out for number one." But
be honest. If you don't look out for yourself
first, who will? Are you ready to take control
of your own destiny-to look out for number one?
I can help you find the path to success, but you
need to make the decision to take the first step
down that path. Your first step will take you
just a few minutes. Take the time to fill out
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to success today. Like my friend Melissa, you
will discover a whole new way of life that you
never imagined-and a sense of independence, confidence
and accomplishment that is beyond your fondest